I feel like we just lived an extra two years of madness crammed into the last 6 months - right? Well it has felt like that to me:)
As I have been thinking about this months blog and all the topics fresh in my mind that I have been dealing with, I'm going to start with what my dad was thinking when he began saying "Have Some Fun Today". I know he was juggling a lot: a big family, lots of bills to pay, running a midsize company that he started from scratch with two manufacturing facilities and over 100 employees, several major health issues and his love of having a balance of work and play. Basically a full and complex life like many of us have. Somewhere out of that, this kind, outgoing guy that could sell ice to a Eskimo started to say "Have Some Fun Today." Now I get it more than ever.....
And to be honest I have had my share of moments where I had to dig deep to find my sunshine. This is what I do for a living right? How can I feel so worn out emotionally and mentally that I can't be authentic in my job of sharing how to HSFT? It happens to the best of us. I have cried more in the past 6 months than I had in the past several years. Cried for the world, cried for those who have lost loved ones, cried for people who have been isolated and depressed, cried for the lack of compassion and leadership our world so desperately needs and when I was done crying I became grateful for my position and grateful to be a voice and a vessel for some happiness that others can feel and wear and share.
Yes we have a lot to figure out and improve and Yes we aren't out of the woods yet, but these things are here and we either evolve and find ways to uplevel, fix some of these problems and enjoy life, or we don't.
The past six months have awakened so many of us to the corruption of "the system". If we dwell in the media amongst the childishness of our politicians, and how this storm is whirling over us from so many angles, it is easy to fall prey to becoming depressed and anxious. I have felt this deeply and it has given me a new perspective. We all don't have to agree, but we should be able to respect our disagreements and still play in the sandbox together. That is how we progress as a nation.
When all the racial riots were in full swing I received an email from a customer of my brand. It was in response to my email that Love is the Answer. While she was polite and well meaning, she wanted to let me know that while she didn't expect me to send out a racially apologetic marketing email addressing the issues at hand, she felt my Love is the Answer email was naive at best.
I welcomed the conversation and ansered her about my feelings regarding BLM from my heart (as I am a mother of 1 millenial and 1 Gen Z and we had many many conversations about it) so I was able to share my position with her that I have always had the utmost respect and have worked with and support Black artists, Black models , Black designers, Black photographers, Black customers and Black friends and truly believe that the most beautiful world is one where we respect all races equally. But what came out of my final comment in my conversation with her was that my purpose with my brand is to share something simple that lifts peoples spirits and reminds them whoever they are, whatever race, color, sex or political affiliation to enjoy your life - to Have Some Fun Today .
She told me she didn't expect to hear a reponse to her email at all, especially from the founder, she thanked me and it felt good to hear her, and for her to hear me and to give each other the mutual respect that everyone deserves. That is who we are. That is what this brand is about. That is my purpose. That is the brands purpose. We stand by that simplicity and honor the words : Have Some Fun Today.
So for everyone of you who is reading this, don't forget to have a little fun today.... you never know what the future holds as we have clearly been shown.
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"Have Some Fun Today." - Joe Rado
Love & Light,
Stop The Holidaze
Do you ever feel like the end of October and early November has you blazing towards the holidays at warp speed?
I love this time of year, with beauty of the fall and the beginnings of cozying up to winter, but it always feels like we’re knee-deep into Christmas before we’ve emptied the Halloween candy bowl and tossed out pumpkins.
Less Stress More FUN
The holidays can create more stress than actual joy and FUN. And since we’re all about the “Have Some Fun Today” mindset, we’ve been thinking of ways to keep the HSFT in our holidays this year.
We've created our HSFT checklist to help you do more than survive this Holiday Season. Here's to less stress and more ways to Have Some Fun this year!
1. Check the Box
We’ve always believed that HSFT is a mindset and a choice that we make each and every day. Let’s take back our power and own it this holiday. Just decide right now that you are going to Have Fun. No. Matter. What. It really does start with that.
I find that there are always plenty of reasons for me to be stressed out and overwhelmed, but when I am mindful enough to choose to look for the FUN, it changes the course of everything else.
2. Wear Your Positivity
Start with something simple, like what you’re wearing. A great outfit that’s chic and comfortable can make you feel good and change your entire attitude. Don’t overthink it.
We love a “uniform” of classic pieces that you don’t have to think about and that interchange with things in your closet. A sleek legging, a fantastic fitting jean, a black fitted skirt. I love the versatility of our embroidered off-the-shoulder-fleece whether you're running around to do holiday shopping, checking off you errand list, a business lunch, or office holiday party
It pairs perfectly with classic staples and is super flattering on everyone. Add boots or a blazer and it’s flawless. Most important, its embroidered with your holiday mantra of Have Some Fun Today. Every time you catch yourself in the mirror or in those holiday shop windows, you’ll be reminded of that holiday promise you made. Have FUN!
I swear by this in my own daily routine and think it is a powerful way to keep stress free. I always start by writing it down.
I like to create a blueprint or an action plan that keeps me on task and keeps it SIMPLE. When you start with simple, you’re one step ahead of the stress.
Maybe you won’t do holiday cards this year or maybe you’re not giving all the neighbors homemade Christmas cookies, -and that’s okay! Set your intention by writing down not only what you will do, but also what you won’t do. It’s like giving yourself permission to not overdo it.
Studies show that when you write something down, you are twice as likely to follow through or meet your goal…. So, stick to your plan.
What overwhelmed you last year? Don’t give a repeat performance, make it different this year and sketch out a less-stressed holiday plan.
4. Put YOU On Your List
I am a big believer in rewarding myself or treating myself when I’ve had a particularly challenging day or a grueling task. There’s nothing like a relaxing bath for me where I just indulge in the ceremony of preparing a sacred space and I can just let go. That’s the ultimate HSFT.
I draw the water, add some nourishing bath oils and light candles. I love our HSFT essential oil candle and some relaxing music to create that peaceful ambience. The smells, the hot water; it’s heavenly.
Make time for you! It’s a must when we get so busy and overwhelmed. Creating moments like this for yourself is crucial for creating balance and gratitude.
5. Give The gift of A Good Vibe
Our gift line of totes like our new deluxe shopper, candles, hats, and wristlets are perfect for everyone on your list. And don’t forget the HSFT tees, muscle tanks, and workout gear.
I always love seeing how happy people are when I give the gift of HSFT. It instantly brings a smile. We all need more HSFT in our lives, so spread the love. That’s what this brand is all about, and our holidays should be, too.
6. To Your Health
I’ve always believed in the mind-body-spirit connection in my life and it’s never more important than during the holidays. It’s easy to lose ourselves in the holiday party food and a few glasses of bubbly.
I love to indulge in my Italian family’s delicious cooking, especially during the holidays. But keeping my time at the gym keeps me grounded and stops the guilt trip when I do indulge. The holidays can be physically taxing so we need all the strength we can get. Working out makes us feel good and it keeps us strong.
Don’t skip your workout, just make it more FUN. We’ve got a whole line of HSFT work out leggings, sports bras, muscle tanks and hoodie that are perfect for working out and keeping you in the HSFT state-of-mind.
Get Jolly With Our Black Friday Sale
To help you get this holiday season started right, we’ve got a dope sale for Black Friday/Cyber Monday at Have Some Fun Today going all weekend long, beginning November 23rd.
We’ve also got a fabulous event for locals at our Wyomissing studio, if you need some in-person shopping. We’ll be sending invitations by email for 50% off online codes and the times you can swing by the studio and shop with even more holiday savings!
Whatever the holiday season brings you, keep it simple, stylish, and always, -keep it filled with the HSFT spirit…
Love, Light and HSFT,
Day 6 – Post Surgery
- You have to be mentally strong to do a surgery like this
- Everything leading up to this surgery and since then, has given me an appreciation for a healthy body
- I have a renewed respect and fascination for medical innovation and science
- Sometimes you have to put your faith in the science to fix the problem, instead of putting a Band-Aid on it
- Recovery is a full time job, mentally and physically
- Being as healthy as possible going into any surgery will make recovery easier
Just a little over two weeks ago, I had a bilateral hip replacement. It was a bold decision to have both my hips replaced at such a young age, but with the help of an incredible doctor, some indisputable facts and knowing I had tried everything else I could, it was time.
Why did I do it?
I’ve had some time to think a lot the last few days, as I watch my body go through the incredible process of healing. A walker, my bed, my laptop, occasional visitors; this has been my world.
The biggest gift of this whole process is what it’s taught me and reminded me about myself. A double hip replacement forces one to slow down, but it’s also an invitation to go inward and reflect. I can clearly see now that my whole journey through pain, treatment and eventually surgery, has truly been such a gift.
I’ve been living with intense physical pain in my hips the last four years. And I spent a large part of that time seeking alternative treatments and doing everything I could to make it better. I was determined to change it.
Your Body Really Is A Temple
For most of my adult life, the one thing I’ve been able to control was my fitness and body image. After my youngest daughter was born, I made a commitment to take better care of myself so that I could be healthy and strong for my daughters. I truly believe that’s one of the most important things you can do for your children.
By my late 30’s, I had a better, stronger, and leaner body than ever before in my life. When my sister started RADO Nutritionin California, it opened me up to a whole world of nutrition and natural supplements. My workouts moved to things like Pilates, yoga and personal training. I loved the way I felt.
My journey to stay fit and eat healthy foods opened up a more evolved sense of self in my 40’s. I began to study spirituality, psychology and really make a mind-body-spirit connection through things like yoga and meditation.
I’ve found that being healthy and strong both mentally and physically, carried me through the difficult times that were ahead for me, like the ending of my 17-year marriage and several years later, the death of my father.
A Brand Comes to Life
When I started Have Some Fun Today4 years ago just after my father passed, I knew it would take my blood, sweat and tears to bring this brand into existence. It was an enormous amount of work that would require all my stamina and strength and anyone that knows me, knows that I wouldn’t be doing this half-ass. This was going to take my everything, if it was going to be something worthwhile.
A year into the building of my company, I started having difficulty with my hips and movement. I initially thought it was a minor injury or strain on my joints. But soon I was having a hard time working out and even walking. I started looking for anything and everything to help me; chiropractors, physical therapists, sports medicine therapists, Pilates instructors, strength trainers and massage therapists. In addition to my new company and being a mom to two teenage girls, attending to “my hips” was becoming a full-time job.
A Crystal Clear Revelation
A few months ago, I was reading about some alternative therapy for joints. I scheduled an appointment with an orthopedic surgeon and another doctor to start some alternative therapy. ”Hip replacement” was not even on my radar.
As I chatted with the physicians assistant about my plan, the doctor came in and bluntly said, “You need a full double hip replacement”. For the first time since this whole thing had started, I was able rationally able to see it. I needed a double hip replacement and no amount of alternative therapies were going to change that.
I realized that everything I was doing would not result in me being able to move without pain the way I wanted. Sitting there in that doctor’s office, it became so crystal clear to me that it was the right thing to do. I didn’t want to waste any more time and scheduled the surgery as soon as I could.
Re-building and Reconnecting
Looking back, I think I was learning to live with my pain, without realizing how much of a limitation it was really putting on my life.
In the days since the surgery, through all the pain and the slow recovery, I keep coming back to this one thing. With my legs numb and swollen, as I push myself to get out of this bed and walk every hour, the message is loud and clear. The only person that I have to answer to is me. If I want to get better, then I have to push myself. If I want to heal and be strong again, I have to dig in and get on this road to recovery, because no one else is going to put me there. I want to get better for me.
As I work daily and hourly to re-connect my mind-body, it takes an excruciating amount of concentration between my brain and my body to just move. Small steps with a walker, little victories as I see things changing in the smallest of ways, I feel the shift. I realize how much our thoughts control our actions. I’m using those same tools that I honed through my health and wellness journey all those years ago. Then I get back in the bed, prop my legs up and rest until it’s time to do it all over again in another hour.
Gratitude Is A Game Changer
And through all of this, I do NOT feel sorry for myself. I just feel grateful. The gift is that when I am better, I will have joy of knowing what it means to move without cringing pain or limping. I will know the difference.
My fitness, nutrition and spiritual habits have been my go-to for coping until the storm passes. I feel like taking care of myself this way has saved me from the depths of despair when things have been most challenging. And now my body will be even stronger, wiser and healthier as I continue to climb the challenges that life brings me every day.
A steady mind, a healthy life will persevere through almost anything.
I cannot wait for what is in store and what life has for me just around the bend.
What I’ve come to understand is that this was about quality of life. My wise father said these four simple, sweet words when you left his company, “Have some fun today”. And after he left this world, his words are still with us. They mean more to me now then I could ever know.
Those words are brilliant. And that philosophy, the HSFT mantra, is why I ultimately said yes to the double hip replacement. Have Some Fun Todayis seeking quality of life, searching for that little bit of magic, reaching for something higher. Something better.
I said yes to something to give me back my quality of life so I could truly live the “HSFT” life. I knew I had to make a change to be free, and live unhindered by pain. There’s nothing stopping me now from having “fun”. We are not here for that long. Our time is fleeting in this world and what lies in between should be our own wonderful, crazy, interesting and unique story. Stake your claim. Make the decision to do something bold and unexpected so you can live the best life you can!
That’s what I think my Dad was saying. Have some fun. Today. Don’t put it off. Don’t find another excuse. You don’t get another shot at this.
Thanks, Dad. I really needed to hear that.
Love, light and HSFT,
HSFT owner and designer Stephanie Taormina photographed in her home by Tina Louise, October 2017.
HAVE SOME FUN TODAY - Define beauty. Ask 25 people to do the same and you'll get 25 different answers; none of which will likely be anything close to the one in Webster's Dictionary. That's the beauty of beautiful, it truly is in the eye of the beholder, and it's different for all of us.
Shine On You Crazy Diamond
At HSFT, we think the definition of beauty is being whatever expression of YOU that feels beautiful, no matter what that is. Regardless of how high or low your neckline, how tight or loose you choose to wear your clothes, --short, tall, bald, blonde, brunette, curvy or skinny, redhead or gorgeous grey; beauty isn't about what you're wearing or the shape of your form. It's about loving the beautiful body and the YOU that you're in and letting it shine.
Let's Hear It For The Brave And The Beautiful
Being bold enough to embrace and celebrate our bodies and beauty takes courage. It takes dissolving other peoples idea's of what we should do or how we should look. When we step into our own personal expression of our beauty, our "goddess" within, it transcends the physical and becomes an essence and an aura that you carry with you. It's that je ne sais quoi that every beautiful and confident woman oozes, whether she's in a baseball hat or a ballgown. And it's sexy as hell.
How To Teach Beautiful
Celebrate other woman around you that have the courage to be their own unique expression of beautiful, even if it's not the same as yours. Be in "beauty solidarity" with anyone who is brave and bold enough to step into their light and be who they are. That is beautiful.
It's not going to look like the cover of the magazines or the pictures of Instagram. And isn't that exactly what we should be teaching our daughters? That would be a revolution. Confident and bold, young woman who own their beauty and don't shame and judge others for owning theirs.
No Costume Required
Yesterday, many of us were knee-deep in a holiday that celebrates dressing up in costumes and masks as other people. On the day after Halloween, we thought it quite apropos to celebrate being who we are.
When we feel good about who we are, it shows. Serve that up however that speaks to you and don't judge another woman for how she choose to do it. Love one another, celebrate each other. That's the heart of HSFT. Inside and out, you're beautiful.
Win Our New Cashmere Beanie!
Want a crack at our latest winter beanie hat, released later this month? Like and share our Facebook post, and leave your answer to this "I feel beautiful when__________" in the comment section of our post. One winner will be picked from the answers!
(Expires Nov 3, 2017, winner will be sent cashmere beanie once made available.)
Written and contributed by HSFT writer and blogger Rebecca J Doubek
Be grateful for whatcha got and who ya got. Having an attitude of gratitude promotes positive energy in our lives and attracts more good things!
HAVE SOME FUN TODAY - Spring is weeks away from turning to summer and the seasonal change brings about a natural introspection and time for reflection. We're moving into the warmer, even hot weather. The sun stays around a little longer, the nights are filled with summer skin and lazy beach hair. We may take that much needed vacation. And half of 2017 is in the books. What have got left for the remaining six month of this year?
A change of season is always an invitation for a shift within and a chance to take stock of all that we have. We always love to check-in and take a gratitude check up. Cause there's always something to be grateful for.
Let's Play The Gratitude Game
Gratitude, by definition, is "the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness." To return kindness. Let that sit with you for a while. What it means is that gratitude is reciprocating and gratitude is a state of mind. Anyone can conjure up gratitude. Cultivating being grateful for what you have, not focusing on what you don't, is energetically and vibrationally powerful! Basically, it's life changing...
And yeah, there's even science behind it. Research says that creating gratitude and reflecting on what we are grateful for increases our well-being and happiness. Like, improves the quality of your life. Are you getting this?
Just Say Thank You
What do you have in your life that is good. It's always going to be way easier to see what you don't have, initially. But if you sit in stillness, grab a journal or even your keyboard, reflect on what is it that is purely good and positive in your life. Maybe you have to start with the basics. Like, okay a roof over my head is good. Check. But if you did a little deeper, chances are, you'll find more.
We all are in this human experience, yoked together by some very simple core principles, despite the differences and diversities of all of us. Be grateful for these commonalities we share and what binds us together as human beings. It means none of us are going it alone in this life thing, because there is certainly enough shit in the world to divide us.
Take A Shot Of Life
Have Some Fun Today is more than just four little trite words encouraging you to do shots at the bar with your friends, although be great fun. We're talking about embracing the idea of getting some joy out of life, and seeing your life with a new perspective, with the chance of something unexpected around every corner.
What does life look like if you're looking for FUN everyday? HSFT maybe means your taking a chance and taking the road less travelled because you're looking for the magic in that plain ol' day. And when you can start finding FUN in everyday, that will give you something to be grateful about.
Lead with your heart. Be grateful. Practice the HSFT mind set and there's no question the remaining half of 2017 will give you more to be grateful for.
Written and contributed by HSFT writer Rebecca J Doubek who is grateful...
Happiness is spending time with happy people. Want more happy? Hang out with people who are all about it... it's contagious!
Happiness. Choose it.
HAVE SOME FUN TODAY - There is a theory about happiness that basically says, it's a choice. Like, you wake up every day and just simply check the box "Happy" over the one called "Unhappy". And while we do think there are always exceptions, we think this is a pretty powerful way to manifest some positivity in your life.
C'mon Get Happy
The idea is simple and operates under the premise that we all have plenty of reasons to be happy or unhappy. It's like choosing chocolate or vanilla ice cream. You just choose one. At HAVE SOME FUN TODAY, we choose happy. We make it a conscious choice every day and if we need to throw on our Original Crop Tank to remind ourselves, then hell yeah, we're always down for that.
It's Science, Baby
Your thoughts are energy! You actually create physical energetic matter when you have a thought. Physicists call it a Quantum Event. That's powerful stuff. And what we create and what we put out there attracts more of the same. Happy breeds more happy.
"Every time you think a thought, you send out that thought's specific vibration. If a thought makes you feel good, if it's a "positive" thought, it is vibrating at a higher frequency. If a thought makes you feel bad, if it's a "negative" thought, it's vibrating at a lower frequency." -Melody Fletcher of Deliberate Receiving
Happiness really is a state of mind. And there are lots of ways we can get there. Here are three ways to help cultivate more of it:
1) An Attitude of Gratitude
For 30 days, write down three things a day you are grateful to have in your life. Three tangibles that you truly appreciate having. This is less about being a good person and more about being aware of positives and not all the negatives. When we start to focus on the positives as a habit, we create a new pathway for positive thoughts.
2) Work It All Out
It's been proven time and again that there's science to our workouts. Endorphins, dopamine, hormones, -all this stuff in our body chemistry shifts when we exercise and it's the stuff that makes us feel good.
3) Shiny, Happy People
Find some. Spending time with people who are generally happy and have a positive outlook is actually a huge influence on us. Positivity and good vibrations really are contagious, so surround yourself with happy people and chances are, you'll get happy, too.
Live, Love, Be Happy
Need a little more happy? We highly suggest starting with a super chic reminder like our HSFT t-shirt or our luxe tote to keep you in the right frame of mind. One thing we know for sure at HSFT is that life is too short not to have fun and joy. Our mantra, Have Some Fun Today, is meant to serve as that little nudge to stop and enjoy.
Whether it's finding a little silver lining in your day or a big piece of FUN, live your life with the intention of having "happy". There will always be low points and always be struggle, but there will also high points and ridiculously yummy parts. Life does not offer us a do-over. So happy? Yeah, we got happy. Do you?
Written and contributed by HSFT writer Rebecca Doubek who really is happy