Day 6 – Post Surgery
- You have to be mentally strong to do a surgery like this
- Everything leading up to this surgery and since then, has given me an appreciation for a healthy body
- I have a renewed respect and fascination for medical innovation and science
- Sometimes you have to put your faith in the science to fix the problem, instead of putting a Band-Aid on it
- Recovery is a full time job, mentally and physically
- Being as healthy as possible going into any surgery will make recovery easier
Just a little over two weeks ago, I had a bilateral hip replacement. It was a bold decision to have both my hips replaced at such a young age, but with the help of an incredible doctor, some indisputable facts and knowing I had tried everything else I could, it was time.
Why did I do it?
I’ve had some time to think a lot the last few days, as I watch my body go through the incredible process of healing. A walker, my bed, my laptop, occasional visitors; this has been my world.
The biggest gift of this whole process is what it’s taught me and reminded me about myself. A double hip replacement forces one to slow down, but it’s also an invitation to go inward and reflect. I can clearly see now that my whole journey through pain, treatment and eventually surgery, has truly been such a gift.
I’ve been living with intense physical pain in my hips the last four years. And I spent a large part of that time seeking alternative treatments and doing everything I could to make it better. I was determined to change it.
Your Body Really Is A Temple
For most of my adult life, the one thing I’ve been able to control was my fitness and body image. After my youngest daughter was born, I made a commitment to take better care of myself so that I could be healthy and strong for my daughters. I truly believe that’s one of the most important things you can do for your children.
By my late 30’s, I had a better, stronger, and leaner body than ever before in my life. When my sister started RADO Nutritionin California, it opened me up to a whole world of nutrition and natural supplements. My workouts moved to things like Pilates, yoga and personal training. I loved the way I felt.
My journey to stay fit and eat healthy foods opened up a more evolved sense of self in my 40’s. I began to study spirituality, psychology and really make a mind-body-spirit connection through things like yoga and meditation.
I’ve found that being healthy and strong both mentally and physically, carried me through the difficult times that were ahead for me, like the ending of my 17-year marriage and several years later, the death of my father.
A Brand Comes to Life
When I started Have Some Fun Today4 years ago just after my father passed, I knew it would take my blood, sweat and tears to bring this brand into existence. It was an enormous amount of work that would require all my stamina and strength and anyone that knows me, knows that I wouldn’t be doing this half-ass. This was going to take my everything, if it was going to be something worthwhile.
A year into the building of my company, I started having difficulty with my hips and movement. I initially thought it was a minor injury or strain on my joints. But soon I was having a hard time working out and even walking. I started looking for anything and everything to help me; chiropractors, physical therapists, sports medicine therapists, Pilates instructors, strength trainers and massage therapists. In addition to my new company and being a mom to two teenage girls, attending to “my hips” was becoming a full-time job.
A Crystal Clear Revelation
A few months ago, I was reading about some alternative therapy for joints. I scheduled an appointment with an orthopedic surgeon and another doctor to start some alternative therapy. ”Hip replacement” was not even on my radar.
As I chatted with the physicians assistant about my plan, the doctor came in and bluntly said, “You need a full double hip replacement”. For the first time since this whole thing had started, I was able rationally able to see it. I needed a double hip replacement and no amount of alternative therapies were going to change that.
I realized that everything I was doing would not result in me being able to move without pain the way I wanted. Sitting there in that doctor’s office, it became so crystal clear to me that it was the right thing to do. I didn’t want to waste any more time and scheduled the surgery as soon as I could.
Re-building and Reconnecting
Looking back, I think I was learning to live with my pain, without realizing how much of a limitation it was really putting on my life.
In the days since the surgery, through all the pain and the slow recovery, I keep coming back to this one thing. With my legs numb and swollen, as I push myself to get out of this bed and walk every hour, the message is loud and clear. The only person that I have to answer to is me. If I want to get better, then I have to push myself. If I want to heal and be strong again, I have to dig in and get on this road to recovery, because no one else is going to put me there. I want to get better for me.
As I work daily and hourly to re-connect my mind-body, it takes an excruciating amount of concentration between my brain and my body to just move. Small steps with a walker, little victories as I see things changing in the smallest of ways, I feel the shift. I realize how much our thoughts control our actions. I’m using those same tools that I honed through my health and wellness journey all those years ago. Then I get back in the bed, prop my legs up and rest until it’s time to do it all over again in another hour.
Gratitude Is A Game Changer
And through all of this, I do NOT feel sorry for myself. I just feel grateful. The gift is that when I am better, I will have joy of knowing what it means to move without cringing pain or limping. I will know the difference.
My fitness, nutrition and spiritual habits have been my go-to for coping until the storm passes. I feel like taking care of myself this way has saved me from the depths of despair when things have been most challenging. And now my body will be even stronger, wiser and healthier as I continue to climb the challenges that life brings me every day.
A steady mind, a healthy life will persevere through almost anything.
I cannot wait for what is in store and what life has for me just around the bend.
What I’ve come to understand is that this was about quality of life. My wise father said these four simple, sweet words when you left his company, “Have some fun today”. And after he left this world, his words are still with us. They mean more to me now then I could ever know.
Those words are brilliant. And that philosophy, the HSFT mantra, is why I ultimately said yes to the double hip replacement. Have Some Fun Todayis seeking quality of life, searching for that little bit of magic, reaching for something higher. Something better.
I said yes to something to give me back my quality of life so I could truly live the “HSFT” life. I knew I had to make a change to be free, and live unhindered by pain. There’s nothing stopping me now from having “fun”. We are not here for that long. Our time is fleeting in this world and what lies in between should be our own wonderful, crazy, interesting and unique story. Stake your claim. Make the decision to do something bold and unexpected so you can live the best life you can!
That’s what I think my Dad was saying. Have some fun. Today. Don’t put it off. Don’t find another excuse. You don’t get another shot at this.
Thanks, Dad. I really needed to hear that.
Love, light and HSFT,
Have Some Fun Today is a lifestyle brand that’s got soul. The roots of our company began in the mantra that our founder’s late father used to say to his kids when they set out for a new day. Have Some Fun Today. Those words stuck. They set in motion a mindset and a philosophy that HSFT founder Stephanie Rado Taormina never forgot. And after his passing, she decided it was a mindset and philosophy she wanted to share with the world.
“I think it probably makes her feel closer to her Dad,” says Stephanie’s mom, Elaine Rado, of her daughter’s company. “Joe always encouraged all of them and I think when her Dad died, she just realized what a great thing that saying was.”
The Humble Beginnings of Barbies and Nuns
Stephanie is the oldest of five siblings. Her mother says it was clear from the beginning that her first born daughter was creative. “She was always an interior decorator and fashion designer,” she says.
“Barbie World” took up a large portion of the basement where Stephanie and her three sisters could dream up anything they wanted. It’s no wonder those early days of creative expression and playing with Barbies would lead to her working in the fashion industry, becoming an artist and an interior designer.
“She was always creative, from the time she was little. I can remember the nuns at school telling me she was always day dreaming. She was a good student, but she was always in another place,” she remembers. “She entered an art contest and she won. She did beautiful art work, even back then.”
What was it like raising five children?
“Juggling!” she says, laughing. “It was always a balancing act.” Her four daughters and son kept her on the go.
All five of the Rado children were encouraged to be individually expressive and creative. “…. as long as they weren’t doing anything wrong,” she says with a twinkle in her eye. Elaine says the creative thinking runs in the family.
Elaine credits her own parents with instilling in her a strong work ethic, which she thinks her children have inherited. Her parents both worked long hours, her dad working 7 days a week. She was raised the only girl in an Italian family with three brothers, and was expected to help with the cleaning and the chores. “My kids have picked up those values. They are not afraid of work,” she says proudly.
She and her husband Joe were six months shy of their 50th wedding anniversary when he passed a few years ago. She says it was after he died when she realized the impact he’d had on so many people. A former high school teacher and wrestling coach, he served as a mentor to many kids. Weekly steak dinners at Coach Rado’s house with members of the wrestling team was not unusual. Many of his former wrestlers and students came to pay respects at his funeral and told her how important he’d been in their lives. “I understood it then,” she says, realizing the legacy he’d left behind.
A Reminder of a Father’s Love
It’s those four little words, Have Some Fun Today, that daughter Stephanie is making part of her father’s legacy, too. He wanted his kids to find the fun in life, see the joy in the everyday. Life is what you make it, so make it FUN!
“My husband would also say, “If you are going to do something, do it right the first time. The kids have learned that, too. And he liked to have fun!” she says with a big smile. “But you already know that…”